Praise can increase children’s motivation and inspire them to be more cooperative, persistent and hardworking, research shows — but only if it’s doled out the right way.

Yes, certain types of praise commonly lavished on kids by parents, teachers and coaches can actually be counterproductive to their long-term success, psychologist Carol Dweck explains in the updated edition of her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.

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